“Mon Dieu, what are they thinking?”
- Madama Phloozé ™
Tend Your Garden First
Neither Madama or I have children. We quietly understand how that places us on the perimeter of many life events. It is both challenging and liberating in the sense of focus on personal goals. It also allows us to be more emotionally available for family members and friends in need. The investment of self in child rearing is quite consuming and often women wonder where their sense of self goes.
Being an Aunty is a sacred role and one that is often sorely missing. We are bridges between the generations allowing children to open up and then carrying their concerns back to primary caregivers. We can encourage different levels of a child’s development such as artistic endeavors. We also get to go home after a visit without the perpetual strain of round the clock caregiving.
Aunties are also under-appreciated. We don’t get holidays, or dedicated cards. If we are without a mate, our world can be very private. Families can assume we are always available to accommodate their demands and as individuals we can get caught up in rescuing when crisis happens.
It is very important that we water our garden first. Tend to its needs and invest in its welfare. Prune it and create a distinct border by holding to what one needs to sustain its health and well-being. For today, Madama and I began by watering the garden.
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